BE FLEXIBLE... Get into the habit of doing things in different ways. If you always do what you've always done you'll always get what you've always gotten. Make a solid consistent effort to try out new ways of thinking and behaving. The more flexible your behaviour, the more effective you can be in communicating with real skill.

STATE IS NUMBER 1: Remember, in any given situation, the person in the strongest emotional state will influence the other person more than ever before. When you get into a Comfortable state, they will feel more comfortable.

STAY OUTSIDE YOUR HEAD. Instead of mumbling all of that mumbo-jumbo to yourself about what she might think or what she might say, repeat the mantra "SHUT THE HELL UP, SHUT THE HELL UP. SHUT THE HELL UP…." When you do this after a while your brain learns to stop giving yourself such a hard time and will let you just relax and be in the moment.

PEOPLE WANT MOST WHAT THEY MUST WORK TO HAVE. Never leave them certain of your affections. When you're speaking to them, let them take over you world. Then, every once and a while, pull back and act disinterested or distanced. The more uncertain they are of you the more they'll be focused on them trying to win you over instead of evaluating you.

SHOW YOU REALLY WANT THEM BUT DON'T REALLY NEED THEM. Remember, if you truly WANT to be WANTED then you NEED to let go of NEEDINESS. There is nothing as unattractive as someone who is needy. And very little as attractive as someone who needs nothing. So, begin to concentrate more on other areas of your life. What are you really passionate about? Begin to make something else as important to you or more important to you than meeting someone. When you let go of needing it, it usually appears. It's in the last place you look when you find it!!! (that's why when you're single nobody seems interested and when you are going out with someone even Britney seems to want you)

GET PLAYFUL. The secret to flirting is getting into a playful state. Remember a time when you were playful. How did it feel to be playful back then? Bring back this same feeling when you are out and about and let it fill up every conversation you have. Remember a sense of humour is one of the most important qualities in a prospective partner. Laugh, joke, loosen up, enjoy yourself. Flirting is fun.

WATCH YOUR GESTURES. Pay attention to your smile, hand movements, the way you eat and drink, your walk and the expressions you use. A good way to find them out is ask one of your best friends impersonate you in each of these scenarios. This will reveal to you how other people see you and will give you valuable insights into what you need to do to stop or start coming across in a certain way.

FOCUS ON HER NOT YOU. Remember it's much less important how you come across, it's much more important how you make her feel. Even just saying hello and being yourself without any clever jokes or lines, can work wonders as long as your emphasis is on how to make her feel good and not on how she will rate you.

MAKE HER FEEL LIKE A PRINCESS. Even in this age of political correctness, woman still love to be treated like women. Many will love being regarded as one of the lads… when they are your friend but remember when you are interested in someone to make them feel feminine around you. Be chivilarous, allow them to see you in control, strong and confident. By letting them see your Masculine side, it makes them feel more feminine and beautiful which in turn enhances their perception of you. Yin and Yang. Opposites attract. If nothing else, they deserve it.

IT'S THE WAY YOU TELL EM'. Give them the experience of your story. If you want to get to know the other person listen for their stories. If you want them to get to know you, tell them your stories. Women do not fall for your opinions or facts about you, they fall for the way you tell your story. Your stories capture their imagination, they lead them into your life by the hand and they show them around your life. Tell them with passion and let them feel the emotions of the story. Remember… plenty of funny ones!!