This month I want to talk about a concept we all know as your 'Hearts Desire'. Very often, we hear of this as expressing the most important thing to us that we want in life. I want to examine how we can find our hearts desire and reach that wonderful place where we feel fulfilled.

Most of life, we spend chasing after what we want and running away from what we don't. We struggle through our existence to try and get the best of life we can. meanwhile there are many people throughout the world less off than us and better off than us. Somehow we trap ourselves in comparing ourselves with others instead of truely setting our focus on manifesting our hearts desire.

Firstly, you will never know who you truely are because you are not qualified to make that judgement because you have been wrong before. The good news though is that nobody else is qualified to judge you either. You can however and they can however judge your intentions and actions. Your intentions refer to what you want to do and why you want to do it. Your actions refer to what you do and how you do it.

Probably one of the most popular books out there in the self development market is a book entitled 'The Power of Now'. What I wanted to talk about this month was the power of NOW, BEFORE and NEXT. Although I think the book is a fantastic book and highly recommend it, I want to add some more ideas which I believe you will find useful to keep in mind.

Every day we wake up with one fundamental choice. We can either be the best we can be or not. Being the best we can be involves doing the best we can, speaking the best we can, learning the best we can, taking care of ourselves the best we can and getting on with others the best we can.

This month I wanna talk about this choice. You see, most people I get to work with and, in fact, most people I know don't live the best that they can. I didn't either and still sometimes I don't. The difference is that I do much more than I ever did and I continue to do better each day. I made a choice a while back to live out more of my potential because I wasn't satisfied with the way things were going in my life before.

Myself and Brian have worked with people with all kinds of problems over the years. We have helped people overcome anything from serious depression, intense panic attacks, 'flaming' phobias and immense stress. When we teach people in seminars how to use NLP, we are really teaching them how to deal with their own problems. Using the basic of NLP, you can overcome most of the problems that you have. Unfortuantely so many people love the idea of 'NLP' but do not use it to turn their lifes around. So often we do all that we can simply to get people to use the skills we teach rather than discuss the wonderful world of NLP.

Jealousy is something which can break down relationships and become a dangerous obsession for some people. This month I felt that it was useful to diuscuss the nature of jealousy and, more importantly of course, how to deal with it successfully.

When someone becomes jealous, they do so by thinking about what another person has or seems to have or be, They then compare that with what they themselves have and they feel inadequate. Although this generalisation is not always true, it certainly explains quite a lot of jealousy out their. Like any intangible noun, jealousy is actually referring to a process. This process is the art of 'jealousising'. You see what's crucial to remember is that when you think of things as the processes that they are, you develop control over them.

In Life, one thing that is almost guaranteed is the existence of Mind Games. We often wish that we never had to play them but we do and they are necessary. What I want to talk about is different ways to handle mind games successfully. Although it may not be true that you can always win mind games, I do believe that there are certain effective ways of handling them.