Jealousy is something which can break down relationships and become a dangerous obsession for some people. This month I felt that it was useful to diuscuss the nature of jealousy and, more importantly of course, how to deal with it successfully.

When someone becomes jealous, they do so by thinking about what another person has or seems to have or be, They then compare that with what they themselves have and they feel inadequate. Although this generalisation is not always true, it certainly explains quite a lot of jealousy out their. Like any intangible noun, jealousy is actually referring to a process. This process is the art of 'jealousising'. You see what's crucial to remember is that when you think of things as the processes that they are, you develop control over them.

In Life, one thing that is almost guaranteed is the existence of Mind Games. We often wish that we never had to play them but we do and they are necessary. What I want to talk about is different ways to handle mind games successfully. Although it may not be true that you can always win mind games, I do believe that there are certain effective ways of handling them.

One of the things which I have found being of great importance is the archetypical energies of strength and weakness, of fierceness and tenderness. I went to a seminar with Steven Gilligan who brought to my attention the need to create balance between such energies. Many people find themselves suffering because they are too 'tender' and let other people walk all over them. Others present themselves as being too 'fierce' and therefore their relationships suffer.