Here are some tips to help you widen your social and romantic circle.

1. Join more clubs and societies. These days there are lots of groups to join and the more you do the more people you meet plus it´s more likely they have similiar interests.

2. Do more courses. From languages to pottery, NLP to music class, there are plenty of people out there interested in bettering themselves which is a good sign... generally!

3. Remember the basic social skills: Smile, Remember their name and use it, Remember what they say to you so you can demonstrate you are listening, Make their time with you pleasant.

4. Remember the other valuable social skills: Get past the exchanging information phase and get to sharing stories about eachothers lives, Get them laughing as much as possible and Develop certain things that you associate with each other.

5. Always be the first to introduce yourself. It demonstrates confidence which is appealing and ensures that others who are shy can open up more.

6. With shy people, make them feel as comfortable as possible. Sometimes when talking with someone who feels shy there can be ackward silences. Make sure that there is nothing ackward by asking open questions and demonstrating a relaxed, fun and interested approach in the conversation.

7. Always be nice to people even if they don´t seem interesting. They might have friends who are.

8. Always find the right time to leave a conversation when you are speaking. Try to avoid interrupting a person and leaving. Instead, join them animatedly and share your point of view then interrupt yourself and excuse yourself.

9. Always have your phone or a notepad to jot down  someones phone number or email address.

10. Once you are getting on well with someone figure out a clever reason to get their details from them. If you are getting on really well, you probably won´t need to.

11. Pay attention to the body language of people you are considering approaching. Notice any ring on their finger, the way they hold themselves and ask them about holidays pretty early on. If they have been on a holiday and are with someone chances are they will mention it. if they are single they might have gone on holidays with friends. It´s not error proof but is pretty effective.

12. Have your friends introduce you to their friends.

13. Check out the internet sites from Bebo to MySpace to Hi5 etc... or dating sites. The internet is becoming more popular and mainstream for this kind of thing.

14. MOST IMPORTANT, Control your state. A Confident, Relaxed, Fun, Playful and Positive State usually works best!