Away with the Fearies by Anna Aparicio

Throughout my life I have met quite a few people who seem to regard fear as this living entity, which can somehow take complete control of their lives. I call it "being away with the fearies". I have heard shocking statements such as " I am just a fearful person" and "I am afraid because of the way my parents brought me up" and the even more astonishing "fear just takes over me". A lot of us make such powerful statements regarding different areas of our lives without realising the massive impact of the words we utter. For example, if you say you are a fearful person, in general, and you truly believe this is who you are, it will most definitely affect your life, in general. This can mean that every decision you make concerning any area of your life, be it your career, health, relationships... will be made by a fearful person thinking fearful thoughts and making fearful decisions, and therefore getting the corresponding consequences: poor or no results, the opposite of what you wanted to achieve, or worse. I haven't seen this happen many times, even to some of my loved ones. Blaming others for our fears is also a common occurrence. A friend once related to me that her parents brought her up to hate rich people. They believed that rich people get rich at the expense of poor people, that they are conniving, superficial and materialistic. They said poor people are honest and nice and they care about other people. This girl grew up hearing statements like this on a daily basis and ended up believing them. What do you think happened to this girl? She grew up wanting to be happy and live an amazing life. She wanted a career, a man with ambition, a nice house, lovely holidays abroad... She wanted a dream life, but, she was too afraid to go for it because of what that meant to her: being materialistic, superficial, conniving... so, in her late twenties she found herself doing a job she hated, living in a house she didn't want to live in, and with a bum as a boyfriend! The thing is I believe something deep inside started fighting these beliefs otherwise she wouldn't have told me her story at all. She realised that her dreams clashed with her adopted beliefs and that maybe she didn't have to believe this things, that maybe what she was taught is after all not always true. Only when she took on board more useful beliefs was she able to make better decisions and some radical changes in her life. You have to make the decision to take responsibility for your life and live it the way you want to live. Yes, sometimes things don't go the way we want them to go, other times unfair things happen. You are probably going to feel a whole range of emotions, from ecstasy to despair, true love, happiness, frustration... fear. The secret is to let yourself accentuate the positive ones that make you feel so amazing, and feel them for as long as you can. Rejoice in those moments and draw strength from them, remember them regularly, and be grateful you can feel such wonderful feelings. On the other side, eliminate the feelings that make you feel not so good, or choose to feel them for just a very short time. Really, it is as simple as that. No matter what people say, no matter what you may have believed before, you can take control and decide to break free from fears, or, as our friend Susan Jeffers wrote, feel the fear and do it anyway! Anna Aparicio IINLP Life&Success Coach, IINLP Master Practitioner, Reiki 2 Practitioner 086 065 63 83 anna@delite.ie www.delite.ie