Now, when I say Legend, I mean it in the sense of being a fantastic person. I do not mean LEG END. Sometimes I know we all can feel like a Leg End. Whenever I do something ridiculous or mindless like I do quite often I can call myself a leg end, but these days I usually say it to myself nicely in a funny way :). You see, what's is lovely to know is that you don't have to take yourself seriously. Instead, you can laugh at yourself in a way that makes you feel good.

Now take the phrase 'laugh at yourself'. It suggests that there are two of you. One to do the laughing and one to be laughed at. Well here's the thing: the concept of two of you might be ridiculous and you might laugh at the thought of laughing at yourself, so that would make you laugh at you laughing at yourself and so on. So before we get too silly with all this reflexiveness, what is my point?

Let us use this notion of there being two of us. Of course sometimes we can feel like there are many different 'individuals' in us. People say 'I'm not quite myself' and 'Sometimes I feel like I do, Sometimes I feel like I don't' or 'Part of me wants this and part of me wants that'. So it is no wonder that so many people have found it difficult to 'find' themselves. It's like trying to find the one true fruit in a giant grocery shop. The truth is that there is none. There is only a way of thinking about who we are that is true for ourselves for a particular time in a particular way.

My point is that you can decide how you want to think about yourself and once you do, you will realise of how much of a legend you really are. You can look at your faults and accept them and look at your good points and feel great about them. If you don't like how you look you can dress as well as you can, get as fit as you can and do all you can with what you have got and just accept it. Feeling bad about it makes you ugly. By feeling great you actually make yourself become way more attractive than ever. When you make a mistake, note it and imagine yourself doing it properly the next time. Then laugh at having done the mistake. Find the humour that exists in imperfection. Realise the stupidity that arises in people taking themselves too seriously.

You can take all that rubbish that people have said about you in the past and realise that it was just opinions, mostly unfounded opinions. Often many of us can let what a person says or the way a person has treated us to determine how we feel and think about ourselves. Forget that. Everyone else has their own agendas. Let them say what they want but remember that anything negative that you feel about yourself was just an opinion that became a belief and the great news is that you can let it just go. Life is too short for taking on board all the baggage and issues. You can't control how other people treat you but you can control how you treat you. Most people complain or whine about how people treat them or have treated them in the past. Forget that. Do what you have to do to leave it in the past. Be aware of how you have treated yourself and if you have been bad then stop straightaway. Move on.

Be a nice, decent person by doing nice, decent things. Often we evaluate ourselves through looking at how we act. So, act well and you will be more likely to feel good. Smile at people more. Make them feel good for no reason. When meeting new people let your guard down enough to let them know who you are. Remember the only people who truly know you as a person are those closest to you and they adore you and love you which means that you must be adorable and loveable. Therefore you can correctly assume that if the stranger got to know you properly they would feel the same way. Be the kind of person you respect and like, the kind of person that can hold their head up high, the kind of person that can honestly feel proud of the choices they made. Forgive yourself for your flaws, moments of being a leg end and the times where you did the wrong thing. Be sincerley sorry to the people you have hurt in whatever way you did. Just commit to be the kind of person you can look up to and feel good about it..

A while ago, I had my entire perception of myself turned around and now when I think about who I am, I feel super. I really couldn't give a shite what most other people think. Where I come from, often if you admit to this, you can become known as arrogant but I don't believe that I am or even care. I just happen to treat myself like my best friend. I talk to myself in a nice way. I buy myself presents. I joke around and have a laugh with myself about the craziness of this world. I encourage myself when things don't work out and I remind myself of the success I've had in the past whenever I need a confidence boost.

I forgive myself for all the things I have messed up and I laugh at the cringe worthy things I have done. I give myself the brutal truth in a caring way. I smile at myself because of all the opportunities that I remind myself are ahead of me. I ask and give myself advice on how to solve my problems and I enjoy spending time with myself creating and manifesting ideas which make me feel like I am really living. When bad things happen I let myself get over it by being there for myself. I let other people be them selves, think what they think and live their own life while I live mine. I accept my imperfections and congratulate myself for the way I've handled some of the tough times.

So, I treat myself well. Let's face it. No matter how nice or good you are, you will always find people who aren't nice to you or who will hurt you. So it only makes sense that regardless of others, you make sure that you are decent to you. After all you spend every single day of your life with yourself and you may as well be nice. Let other's be and discover the wonderfulness of being yourself. It lets you really enjoy the best parts of life. It lets you deal with all the shit in life and come out smiling. Think about it. It makes a lot of sense. I describe NLP as helping people to communicate more effectively with themselves and then with others. That's what it's about. Treat your self well and you will be better with others. When you become your own best mate it not only makes you feel truly happy with who you are and better able to create more fulfilling relationships with others, it also makes you realise just how much of a legend you really are.